Write out of the depths of your heart
By Susie E. Caron © 1/8/15
Do you struggle with writer’s block? This often happens when other duties, problems and opportunities get in the way of ‘flow.’ However, emotional (or physical) pain can also interfere with good writing, or writing anything at all. Sometimes it is not possible to write blogs, articles, guest posts or even tweets, until you have written what is on your heart, especially when you are in pain.
Maybe you believe it is not possible to write until you feel better. However, that is exactly when you must write. I struggled with this recently.
I had just been invited to guest blog about the process of writing, publishing or marketing. I wrote up a rough draft, but with Thanksgiving coming I set it aside to edit later. Then my Boxer and working therapy dog, died suddenly, right before Thanksgiving. Everything stopped. I struggled to prepare meals, be with my family, and grieve silently all at the same time.
After Thanksgiving, everyone retreated to their own homes. I tried to edit my guest blog. After several attempts, nothing pleased me. I realized, then, that I needed to write about my recent loss, before I could write about anything else.
Our Boxer Coda, hadn’t been ill for long. For about one week, she only seemed a bit slower than usual. Blood tests revealed Pancreatitis and she was put on a low fat diet. However, by the end of the second week, she began deteriorating fast. Within 2 days she was gone. She died on Sunday before Thanksgiving.The whole day had been heart wrenching.
That particular Sunday morning, Coda would not sit or lay down. She refused food and just stood in our living room, watching for my husband to return from outdoors. Coda didn’t show signs of pain, but I sensed the truth so I sat on the floor and held her in my arms. She stood, and rested her head on my left, upper arm as I wrapped it around her. I put my right arm between her front legs and extended it under her tummy so I could support her right hind leg with the back of my hand.
I don’t know how long we remained there, but I knew she was dying. I cried and told her how much I loved her, and how for 8 ½ years she’d helped many children and adults to heal. I told her it was okay for her to go and that I would be okay, and that I would miss her. Then I softly said “Goodbye”. As soon as I had whispered those words, Coda gently pulled away from me but continued to stand in her typical Boxer stance. With her head cocked slightly to one side, ear up, she waited for my husband, to return from digging her final resting place. The ground was nearly frozen, but earlier that day, he’d found a spot still soft enough to break through. Coda and I heard the back door open. As my husband walked into the living room, Coda looked at him and breathed her last. He buried her as we’d planned, under a tree, on our side-yard, overlooking the pasture and the horses she loved.
During our 43 years of marriage we’d loved and cared for many dogs, of various breeds, but Coda was special. She worked with me. I trained her in obedience, but I didn’t need to train her big heart. She came with that. Coda had a gentle way of being with kids, teens and adults beyond anything I could have hoped. I missed her immediately and I would feel that missing for a long time to come.
That was my pain. The pain of loss prevented me from writing until I wrote about Coda. I needed to honor her, our relationship and my loss before I could write to address other things. I had to write out of my heart, which was in pain, before I could even finish a blog.
You and I are not just authors. We are people. When we share our humanity, we breathe life into our work, our writing, characters, and books. Whenever we experience writer’s block, or struggle to write, we need to look deep inside. There may be something that calls to us. Something we need to express and write about. Write about it until you express yourself fully, and you will write out of the depths of your heart.
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Susie E. Caron
Susie E. Caron MA,
Psychologist-Master, Parent Coach, Blogger, & Author, committed to help you repair and rebuild your parent-child relationship for benefits that last a lifetime.
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