7 Essential P-Attitudes for Every Parent
by Susie E. Caron © 12/27/14
With the approaching New Year's celebrations and new year's resolutions, I recommend these 7 Parenting Attitudes that, when adopted, will help you to navigate being a parent with more ease and success in the coming year. They are permission, patience, persistence, possession, plan, purpose and pardon.
1. Permission: I give you permission to be the parent. To do this you stop looking over your shoulder to see who is judging you. Short of child abuse, nobody really cares. So do your job and don't worry about the judgement of others. At the end of your kids childhood, you are the only one who will care how you did. Besides, your kids really do want you to parent with all the wisdom you've gained over the years. They are counting on you. They want someone to be in charge. If you're not, they will be and that paradoxically, makes them afraid and more likely to try to strong-arm you. So to be the parent you want to be.
2 Patience: Be as patient with your children as you will want them to be with you - when you are old and infirm. Enough said.
3 Persistence: Never give up! Parents often read a book or get some 'advice' from someone, try it once and when "it" doesn't work, they give up. Children need to know you will not give up on them. If you want them in bed, get them to bed. If you want them to do chores, see to it that they do them. Do not give up! Stand your ground as though you have nothing but time to see to it that they grow up learning the important lessons you wish to teach them.
4.Possess the land: OK, You need to set this record straight. Whether you rent or own your home, you have to make certain that the kids know for a certainty that it is only because of your good favor toward them, that you allow them to live in your home. It's not theirs. It's yours. Getting this clear will help with a lot of issues.
5. Plan: That's right, PLAN ahead. Decide with the week will look like. Who will do what chores. When the fun things are scheduled and how you expect the kids to behave in each and every situation. Then don't forget to let them know what's coming and what you expect of them. Also, don't forget to thank them
6 Purpose (ful): When you find you have to correct your child(ren) make the conversation, consequences or outcome purposeful. If all you do is get angry, yell, banish kids to their room for the month, or take away every worldly possession every time, after a while, none of it will do any good. Actions like these, will not change behaviors. Make sure the consequence fits. It needs to fit the child's 'infraction' as well as the child's developmental ability to understand. After the consequence, welcome the child back into the family fun so they know they are loved.
7. Pardon: Please, pardon. Pardon mistakes, infractions, omissions, and behaviors in yourself, your children and your spouse. Do not carry a list to remember. Do not heap each mistake, one upon another. Forgive, forget and instead of reminding others how they have 'done it again' tell them you love them, believe in them, trust them and really know that they are trying to do the very best that they can. That's all any of us can do. At any time, we are all doing the best we can.
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Have a Wonderful New Year!
Hugs and Blessings
Susie E. Caron
Susie E. Caron
These are from my former life with many current memories and helps for parents.
I retired from teaching, became a psychotherapist treating children and families and an author. After retiring I became a full time artist.
I recently reopened this parenting blog because I believe wisdom is to be shared.
Author of Chidren's Books,
Christian, Wife, & Mother, I want to help you build parent-child relationships, 1 blog, & books at a time.
When I'm not busy creating articles or paintings, you might find me looking for dark chocolate or playing with my Boxer, Josie.
These articles are for educational and self-help purposes only and are not intended as psychotherapy.
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July 13 at 7:17pm ·
Just wanted to say that I love your posts about the different ways to connect/relate/understand your child. It has given me a new approach towards understanding my daughter and allowing HER to tell me how she feels instead of me suggesting to her how she should feel. Thanks Susie!