How to Get Respect!
by Susie E. Caron (c) 12/8/15
Rodney Dangerfield coined the statement, "I don't get no respect." He projected the life of a loser, and it became his tag line, and brand. Funny? Sure! Unless you're a parent and your kids disrespect you.
As a parent, you are engaged in the most important job of all - raising your kids to be responsible adults who contribute to life in your family, local community, country and the world. There is no more important job on earth! The job you do is so worthy of respect and admiration, it's absolutely necessary that you teach your kids to respect you, and to carry this enduring respect within them.
You are not a loser and you deserve respect.
You deserve the respect of your spouse.
You deserve the respect of you kids.
You deserve the respect of your family, friends, coworkers, boss, and acquaintances.
So how do you get respect, especially from your children?
First you determine today to fully respect yourself. I know that sometimes we all do things or act in ways or neglect to do things that we feel make us deserve respect. This isn't about that. You're human. Humans make mistakes all the time. Get over it. You have to, because today you will begin to respect yourself so much that whenever you speak to anyone, kids, spouse, adults, coworkers, boss, waitress, taxi driver, receptionist, phone clerk, etc. etc., you speak to them with RESPECT because you absolutely RESPECT yourself.
This is the decision you make:
"I RESPECT myself. That's why, from this moment forward, I will speak respectfully to every person I encounter, including my kids, whether they act like they deserve it or not."
Respect isn't about another persons deserving it. It's about YOU DESERVING IT.
You must respect yourself so much that you would never lower yourself to disrespect anyone, including your kids.
This is how kids learn to respect you.
You command respect because you are worthy of respect.
You command (not 'demand') your kid's respect when you fully respect yourself.
You command their respect when you interact with, and speak respectfully to them.
You command their respect when you conduct yourself with respect.
You command respect because you are a human of unique and wonderful design.
You command your kids respect because of all this and because and you are their parent. That's enough.
What do you do when Kid's speak disrespectfully to you?
Stop what you are doing, turn fully toward them and say, "I don't speak disrespectfully to you and I won't tolerate or hear you speak disrespectfully to me. Now ask (or tell) me in a better way." (Rinse and repeat or don't respond until you are spoken to respectfully.)
When I began to do this, my life began to change. I believe yours will too.
So begin today to respect yourself and watch what happens.
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Susie E. Caron MA,
Author, Blogger, Podcaster,
Christian, Wife, & Mother, helps build parent-child relationships, 1 blog, book & podcast at a time.
Welcome! I recently retired from combined careers in teaching, psychotherapy, and parent coaching to spend more time writing.
When I'm not busy creating books or articles, you might find me looking for dark chocolate or riding my beautiful horse Apple in the woods and fields of Vermont.
These articles are for educational and self-help purposes only and are not intended as psychotherapy.
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July 13 at 7:17pm ·
Just wanted to say that I love your posts about the different ways to connect/relate/understand your child. It has given me a new approach towards understanding my daughter and allowing HER to tell me how she feels instead of me suggesting to her how she should feel. Thanks Susie!