How to get your kids to be good in the car.
By Susie E. Caron © 1/3/15
Do your children fight, argue and disturb you whenever you drive the car? Distracted driving is dangerous. Your kids may ‘know’ this fact, but continue to fight with you or each other anyway. There is a way to solve this problem get them to behave so you can drive them safely anywhere.
Before I describe what you need to do, I want you to make up your mind that you will not, any longer, drive anywhere with kids distracting you.This is absolutely essential. It is a decision you must make. Okay. Now read how to solve the issue.
Plan an outing, or better yet, take advantage of the next time one or more of your kids wants to go somewhere. Get into the car as usual. When they start to fight, argue or do anything that is distracting, give them one reminder. Calmly tell them: “Please stop fighting (arguing etc.) because you are distracting me. I need to concentrate on my driving to keep you safe.”
When they don’t stop, quietly pull the car over to a safe place along the road, or in a parking lot. Turn off the key, pull it out of the ignition, and get out of the car. Leave the door slightly open and stick your head into the car and say, “Go ahead and argue (fight, whatever). When you are done, I will get back in and continue driving. I will not drive when you are making it unsafe for all of us.” Stand outside and act as though you have all the time in the world. Of course, do not leave them alone or walk away. Just stand close by until you can tell they have calmed themselves.
You can get back in and continue to your destination, only once. If they start to fight, again pull over, repeat the process. But when you get back into the car, simply turn around and take them directly home. You don’t have to be angry, or get upset. You only need determination that you will not, under any circumstances drive while distracted. Be determined and this will work.
Of course, it works best it you are transporting them to a fun event that they want to attend. You may only need to do this once or twice, including taking them home and NOT going to an event, for them to comply, no matter where you are driving. Besides by keeping you safe and the kids safe now, you are modeling 'non-distracted driving' for your kids and perhaps influence them for their future driving.That’s it. That’s all it takes. Drive safely & Happy Motoring!
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Susie E. Caron
Susie E. Caron MA,
Author, Blogger, Podcaster,
Christian, Wife, & Mother, helps build parent-child relationships, 1 blog, book & podcast at a time.
Welcome! I recently retired from combined careers in teaching, psychotherapy, and parent coaching to spend more time writing.
When I'm not busy creating books or articles, you might find me looking for dark chocolate or riding my beautiful horse Apple in the woods and fields of Vermont.
These articles are for educational and self-help purposes only and are not intended as psychotherapy.
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Just wanted to say that I love your posts about the different ways to connect/relate/understand your child. It has given me a new approach towards understanding my daughter and allowing HER to tell me how she feels instead of me suggesting to her how she should feel. Thanks Susie!